1. You don't have to look like a movie star to be likeable. You don't have to have an outgoing personality to be likeable. You are a sweet person, with a lot of talent and you don't have to try and be someone else. Just be yourself. I know you don't feel like people like you and that you are an ok person just how you are, but you will find a lot of people throughout your life (outside of your small town and your small group of insecure teenage friends) that will love you for who you are and appreciate your unique personality, gifts and talents. Be who you are and love yourself and it doesn't matter what others think of you, or what you THINK others think of you. What others think of you doesn't change the truth of who you are. Just be yourself!!
2. Mentors are important- they ones you have now, and the ones you will have in the future. Adults that will be your friends and help you understand who you are and help to develop your talents, and just do things with you and teach you. As a mother now, I want to do and be everything for my kids, but thinking about me as a teenager, I needed other mentors as well. I can't be everything for my kids. I also need to be a mentor for other kids that aren't my own!
3. I have advice for her mother and dad: spend lots and lots of time with me and together as a family. I am craving love and relationships and acceptance. I'm going to be a jerk, and do stupid things, but I need you to be patient and love me anyway. Do things with me- teach me how to sew, knit, draw, go to the movies with me, etc etc. Especially do service with me. In my journal as a teenager I said that I wanted a boyfriend just so that I could make him cookies and have someone to do things for.
I need love and acceptance in a way that my teenage friends can't provide. We need to be together as a family and I need one on one attention and conversations. Keep me busy doing things with me- or I will find someone that won't be good for me just so I can have a connection with someone. Be my friend. Find a way to talk to me as a friend, not a parent. Don't just talk to me when I'm in trouble. Make me feel important and special by what you say to me and what you do.
4 comments:
This is great, kristie :)
So profound! I think things like this about my old self all the time. Remember this for future kiddos as they turn into teenagers. :)
And yes, you are incredibly likeable, just the way you are!!
Beautiful, Kristie! I think some of those lessons are still being learned in my life, but I'm making progress. :)
Insightful post! Hope you guys are doing well!
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